The Limbo of Indecision

Sometimes, our problems seem too big or daunting to think about. We are paralyzed by the change that might be necessary but uncomfortable. We have 2 options:

1. Stick to the status quo, in which we are unhappy, and live in fear of regret or failure
   OR

2. Make the change to the unknown, address the challenge in pursuing a better future.

We all have been there in the Limbo of Indecision! Should I stay or should I go?

Coaches and clients are often in similar situations. Examples include relationship problems and career changes.

The following method allows understanding and visualizing the necessary process and, by this creates clarity and commitment.

• Understand the status quo of a problem.

• Visualize the known and unknown options.

• Create the necessary energy (wake-up call) to effectively take and commit to a decision.

• Picture card sets

• Writing materials such as pen, paper, or journal

• “The Limbo of Indecision” Layout Chart (printable)

• You can arrange the picture cards that will be selected by the client in a similar fashion as shown in the layout chart linked above. Alternatively, print and use the layout chart provided.

1. Introduction:
Let your client describe the situation, including the problem and possible solutions.

2. The Known and the Unknown:
Then let the client select 2 images:

• One for the status quo (“the known”) and the connected feelings.

• One for the potential future (“the unknown”) and how they relate to it.

• Let the client describe the images and discuss which details stand representative for which aspect of the problem (e.g. fear of missing out, hope for a better situation, despair of staying stuck).

3. The Limbo of Indecision:
You are now discussing the situation because the client is in the Limbo of Indecision. Let him/her select another image representing their state of indecision and discuss why it is so hard to decide.

4. The Wake-Up Call:
Regardless of whether the client decides to stay in the known or move towards the unknown, there will be uncomfortable situations and feelings. A “Wake-Up Call” is needed to easily commit to either decision. This is a strong message, from the client to the client himself/herself, to think long term because life is too short to do something that does not make them happy.

• Let the client select the last picture for the “Wake-Up Call”.

• Let them write down a message to themself on the card, in a journal, or on a piece of paper they can take home.

• Discuss the picture and the message. What does this message reveal about the known and the unknown? Is the message strong enough to persist in the face of the Limbo of Indecision? Who can help the client to get even more energy behind the decision?

5. Next steps:

• Let your client look at the whole picture with the four images and one message.

• Help the client to look at the big picture. Ask questions like:

  • “What is missing?”

  • “Has everything important been addressed and represented in the images?”

  • “If you could add one thing, what would it be?”

  • “How confident and happy do you feel about the big picture?”