Coaching and therapy with ‘Me Time’ self-care cards

Coaching and therapy with ‘Me Time’ self-care cards

This post is the BONUS article of our blog series on self-care for beginners. The series is designed to answer your initial questions, give you tips on how to get started and show you how you can learn to live with a self-caring approach. Find the first part here, the second part here and the final part here.


A method for coaches and therapists

In coaching and therapy, the metaFox deep questions ‘Me Time’ self-care cards can deepen the participants’ self-knowledge. Here is a suggestion on how coaches and therapists can make even better use of the potential of these cards and get to the heart of your client’s answer.

Shows the metaFox deep questions Me Time cards that can be used in coaching and therapy

After the client draws a card and gives their answer, the coach or therapist asks them “Why?” five times in a row. Questions beginning with “why” are the most difficult to answer. Therefore, make sure to have a sufficient time allowance for this part in your coaching or therapy session.

An example exchange between a coach/therapist and a client:

What is a wish you hold for your future?

I wish to have a healthy and happy family and a job that fulfills me.

Why?

Because the most important things for me are close relationships and meaningful work.

Why?

Probably because I lacked close relationships as a child. Also because I want to help others with my work.

Why?

Family relationships were disrupted by my parents’ divorce, but again I became closer to my sister. Helping others is probably what makes sense to me in life. That’s why I want my job to be like that.

Why?

My sister and I found ourselves on the same ship, and we began to help each other more. I think that’s why we have such a nice relationship now. At work, it is important for me to establish a relationship with the client based on trust. I also want to be useful to society.

Why?

Because we went through a difficult period together, which brought us closer and we know that we can rely on each other. Now I see that the need to help others also stems from the value of close relationships. Work makes sense to me when I can be in a real human relationship with a client. I want to be useful to society because I feel that I am part of a more important whole, which gives me a greater sense of fulfillment.

Of course, real conversations during coaching and therapy will most likely not follow such a clear process. Nevertheless, this example conversation exemplifies the value of digging deeper, beyond what a first answer might reveal.

A note on the question “Why”

While “why” can be considered the most ‘powerful’ word to start a question, it can also hold a notion of judgment or blame. For this reason, it can sometimes be effective to replace a “Why” with a “What for?”, “How come?” or even a simple “What else?”.

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